Although online frauds such as romance scams have increased dramatically in recent years, it is possible to protect yourself from them. In this article we explain different ways of identifying romance scams.
Technical identification can be used to verify the authenticity of the contact’s profile. By examining the content of their messages, it is possible to determine whether they are attempting to scam you.
Technical identification methods
Anyone can claim to be anything online. Romance scammers exploit this possibility by hiding their true identity behind a false profile they have created. Perpetrators strive to make their profiles appear as authentic and trustworthy as possible. Luckily there are many ways to verify the authenticity of a person you meet online.
It is a good idea to start identifying a possible romance scam attempt as soon as someone you don’t know contacts you online.
It’s notable that scammers try to appear as trustworthy as possible. Their profiles on social media and dating apps may seem genuine at first glance, but they often don’t stand up to closer inspection. You can try to verify the authenticity of the profile of the person who contacted you using the following methods:
Search for your new online acquaintance by name
Most of us have user profiles on various social media services, such as Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn, and we usually use the same name on all of them. Cybercriminals, on the other hand, only create a profile in one place at a time. You can search online (e.g., Google) using the name of the person who contacted you. Do they have profiles on platforms other than the one where they contacted you?
Very often, fraudsters use several different names in their fake profiles to confuse their victims. Sometimes they use names that resemble international celebrities. Scammers try to create the impression that they are well-known or respected individuals in order to gain trust more easily. Even perpetrators who present themselves as ordinary people may have slight variations in their names, making it difficult to verify their identity (e.g., John → Jonathan).
When you search for the name of the person who contacted you, the search engine should return results from their social media accounts or employer’s website, for example. If there are no search results at all, it may be a sign that the person’s identity is not genuine.
Check their profile content
User profiles romance scammers use often have photos that were posted within a short period of time. For example, the profile may have been created less than a year ago, photos were shared several times within a month, and then there was a long break. These are signs that a profile stolen from someone else may be used as a tool for fraud.
Compare the user’s photos and profile information with what they have told you about themselves. For example, do you see street signs or other written text in the photos? Does the language match the language used in the country where they say they live?
Do the photos and profile information of the person who contacted you match the impression they gave you? We often share photos on social media in which we appear with other people. If they always appear alone in their photos, consider why their relatives or friends are not visible in them.
Check their friends list and comments
Romance scammers’ user profiles often follow other fake accounts to make their account look like it has real engagement. Look at the comments on your new friend’s posts, what they say, who wrote them, and the language used.
How many friends or followers do they have? Most of us don’t have a large number of followers, but a large following on Instagram may indicate that followers have been purchased to make the account appear credible.
Also, check how many likes and comments your new acquaintance’s posts have. Most of us have a few likes and occasional comments, but if there are a lot of likes and one-word or emoji comments on the posts, they may be generated by bots.
Pay attention to the content of the comments and the language used to comment on the posts. Do the comments match the languages they speak? For example, if they claim to be American but the comments are exclusively in French, it may indicate that the commenters are not people close to them in their daily life.

Check the information they give about themselves
Romance fraudsters usually claim to work in a certain profession, sometimes related to humanitarian or aid work. If they mention working in a peacekeeping operation or for Doctors Without Borders (MSF), you can easily check their claim. It is known that many scams are carried out in the name of MSF, as the organization’s positive and trustworthy reputation helps the scam succeed. In other cases, it is also a good idea to check the background of the information provided by your chat partner, such as their workplace, home country, and city of residence.
Check out the Doctors Without Borders website for scams committed in their name.
Sometimes the perpetrators claim to be on a peacekeeping mission in a country where no such mission is actually taking place. Information on ongoing peacekeeping operations can be found on the UN website and, for US peacekeeping operations, on the Peace Corps website.
Try a reverse image search
Scammers often use stolen photos in their profiles. One way to verify the identity of your new acquaintance and the authenticity of the photos they use is to do a reverse image search. If the person who contacted you has stolen the photos on their profile, a reverse image search will reveal the origin of the photos.
You can perform a reverse image search using a number of free and paid services. Here are basic instructions for using the free image search feature on the Yandex search engine:
1. Open Yandex image search
- Go to: https://yandex.com/images
2. Upload an image
- Click on the camera icon on the right side of the search bar.
- Select an option:
- ”Upload an image” – upload an image from your device
- ”Paste image URL” – paste the web address of the image
Yandex analyzes the image and displays visually similar images, as well as possible sources and websites where the image appears. Please note that with the development of artificial intelligence, perpetrators can create completely new profile pictures. The paid image search service PimEyes is one way to identify people in images.
Romance fraudsters are increasingly using images of public figures and celebrities. It is a good idea to show the image of your new acquaintance to a friend or relative, as they may recognize the person in the image.
Be cautious about video calls
Due to the advancement of technology, a video call does not necessarily guarantee the authenticity of a new acquaintance. During a video call, a romance scammer may conceal their true identity, for example, by using a face filter. To verify the caller’s identity, you can ask them to move their head or touch their face, for example. Placing a hand in front of the face may temporarily remove the filter, revealing the caller’s real face. However, it is important to remember that Deep Fake technology enabled by artificial intelligence is developing increasingly credible face-altering filters.
One way to verify the authenticity of your chat partner during a video call is to ask them to show you a newspaper from the same day, the view from their window, or some other detail that would be impossible to fake.
You can also suspect that a video call has been edited based on its duration. If the call lasts only a short time, it may be a sign that the call has been edited or even made in advance. Therefore, it is a good idea to try to extend the call by a few minutes. You can also ask the caller questions that cannot be answered with a simple ’yes’ or ’no’. If the answer is longer than one word, it cannot be a pre-recorded message.

Recognizing a scam from the content of the conversation
Romance scams often follow a specific pattern. It is common for cyber criminals to first contact the victim, build trust, and then start asking for money under the guise of fictitious emergencies. The perpetrators often use similar methods, words, and manipulation techniques to build a relationship of trust through conversation and messaging.
Next, we will look at the most common practical examples that are worth comparing to conversations with new online acquaintances. A single characteristic does not necessarily mean that the person you are talking to is a scammer, but it is still good to be aware of these common warning signs. The more of the following characteristics that apply, the more cautious you should be in continuing the conversation.
Sender of the first message
Romance scammers are almost without exception the ones who initiate contact and send the first message. They create fake profiles on social media services, discussion groups, and dating services. They then take the initiative by contacting other users of the platform, sending a friend request, sending the first private message, or commenting on a published photo or other content.
Perpetrators may send a similar first message to many users on the same platform at the same time. This ensures that at least one person will respond to their message. An innocent-looking friend request or contact from a stranger may actually be an attempt by a scammer. They could be trying to start a close correspondence that might lead to a romance scam.
”You have a message from user XXX, who is not in your contacts. Would you like to see the message?”
Think about how often you yourself send friend requests on social media to people you don’t know. We rarely feel the need to get to know someone completely at random with whom we have nothing in common, such as mutual friends, hobbies, or interests.
It is safest not to accept message requests from anyone you have not met in person before.
Cyber criminals exploit all the information they obtain. Although receiving the first message or accepting a friend request on social media may seem harmless, there is a clear risk involved. As soon as you accept a friend request from a stranger, they have the opportunity to learn more about you. Your previous updates, photos, and profile information are all valuable information to the scammers.
Moving the conversation to an instant messaging app
After exchanging a few messages, romance scammers often suggest moving the conversation to an instant messaging app such as WhatsApp, Telegram, Signal, or Google Chat. They may claim that they will delete their current profile or that it will be easier for you to chat on that app. The perpetrators want to move the scam forward and often provide instructions on how to download and use the instant messaging app if you are not already familiar with it.
The idea behind moving to an instant messaging app is that administrators will not be able to monitor the conversation. Most social media services monitor private messages using algorithms and artificial intelligence to prevent fraudsters from carrying out their schemes (e.g., Facebook Messenger). When the conversation moves to a private, untrackable service, the perpetrator can continue to carry out the scam.
Continuing the conversation in an instant messaging app also allows the perpetrator to delete their own messages if necessary. If the scam is exposed they can disappear from the conversation without leaving any traces or tracking data.
A surprising connection to the victim’s home country
One of the methods romance scammers use to gain trust is to pretend to have a connection to the victims’ home country. They may say that they were born or studied in there, mention that their parents are originally from the said country, or say that they have relatives and friends living in there. They may also claim to have been on business trips to the country or to have been interested in the country’s culture, music, or the language for a long time.
Sometimes, the perpetrators reveal their desire to live in the victim’s home country at an early stage and say how they could well imagine moving there. Such talk often leads to repeated promises by the scammer to come to the country. This for one reason or another is postponed time and time again. This is a matter of prolonging the romance scam in order to gain as much financial benefit as possible.
It is also worth paying attention to the language used by your new acquaintance. Nowadays, there are sophisticated translation services available on the internet that allow the perpetrators to converse in victims’ language in a very credible manner. They may explain strange sentence structures or incorrect words by saying that they have already forgotten the language. The perpetrator’s goal is to create a strong connection. They will talk about their experiences in victims’ home country to create a sense of similarity.
The profession and life situation of the person you met online
The profiles of romance scammers are often very similar. Those posing as men often claim prestigious professions, such as doctors, soldiers, renewable energy engineers, or investors. Increasingly, fraudsters also present themselves as managers in more mundane fields, such as restaurant shift managers or construction site managers.
Scammers posing as women, on the other hand, most often claim to be students, single parents, models, or nurses. A common trait among both male and female perpetrators is that their former partner has passed away, such as in an accident or from an illness like cancer. They are now single parents with one or two children. If they do not have children, they may claim to dream of having a child with the victim. They might also insist being a reliable parent to the victims’ children.
However, it is important to remember that fake profiles evolve with the world around them. The perpetrators take advantage of global political situations or major international collaborations and adopt new professional identities as needed.
Conversation partner’s workplace may be at least partially secret. Their work may involve dangerous situations in hazardous locations like war zones, oil rigs, or crisis areas. Work is also often used to explain why it may be difficult or even impossible to meet up or make a video call. For example, working hours are challenging or unpredictable, or internet and phone connections do not work properly. Work may also explain the need for money in their stories. Money may be requested due to company financial issues, late wages, or unexpected work-related travel and mailing expenses.
Despite having a responsible job, your new acquaintance has time to message with the victim almost constantly. Isn’t it strange that, despite their busy schedule and responsibilities, they have time to chat for hours, almost around the clock?
Public figures
Romance scams using the profiles of public figures have increased dramatically in recent years. In Finland, both domestic public figures and international stars are used in these scams. The perpetrators either pretend to be public figures or use their photos as their profile pictures.
If a person known as a public figure contacts you online, treat the matter with extreme caution. A busy actor or musician is unlikely to have time for extensive messaging with their fans. If you are not entirely sure about the identity of your new online acquaintance, it is a good idea to show their picture to a friend or loved one. They may recognize the picture as that of an international celebrity whose image is being used to scam people.
International aid organizations
Scams are sometimes attempted in the name of various aid organizations. There are always crisis areas around the world where aid organizations desperately need financial assistance to help those in need. Cybercriminals sometimes take advantage of people’s desire to help and pose as aid organization employees.
It is highly unlikely that representatives of genuine aid organizations would approach people on social media, for example, to ask for money. Most reliable aid organizations operate through official channels, such as their websites, approved donation platforms, or public campaigns. Therefore, it is important to be very cautious if you encounter such a request for help.
The need for gift cards
Gift cards are currently one of the most popular ways for romance scammers to swindle money from their victims. Gift cards are easy to buy and transfer, and they are difficult to trace.
Sending money in the form of a gift card obscures the true value of the money, making it difficult for the victim to grasp the amount of money they have lost. The amounts requested in the form of gift cards may be small at first, but they increase as the scam progresses.
Perpetrators often pressure their victims to purchase gift cards under the guise of some fabricated emergency. Once the victim hands over the card details to the scammer, they use the funds on the card or sells the card on. It is almost impossible to recover the balance on the card once it has been used.
Gift cards are not tied to a specific person or account. Even if a gift card is purchased for a specific person, it does not bear the recipient’s name. Gift cards from certain credit card companies are practically equivalent to cash. Perpetrators also use them to purchase cryptocurrency, further obscuring the flow of money.
Do not send a gift card to someone you meet online whose true identity you cannot be completely sure of.
”My new acquaintance is probably a scammer, so what now?”
If you have identified the person who contacted you as a scammer using the above guidelines, this realization may come as a shock. It may be difficult to accept at first, especially if your feelings have grown deeper during your correspondence. Cyber criminals rely on their victims being deceived by their fake profiles and ignoring all the warning signs.
In such situations, romance scammers often try to reinforce the image they have created of themselves as honest and trustworthy individuals. For example, a fraudster may claim that their photos have been stolen and are being used for fraudulent purposes. This is just an attempt to distort the truth and cover up the fact that they have been caught.
The safest course of action in this situation is to stop communicating with a person you do not know. It is not always easy to stop communicating, which is why we recommend reading the article on this topic.
Read this article about breaking off contact with the scammer
We recommend cutting off contact in situations where there is reason to suspect that the other party is a romance perpetrator. Even if you suspect or are certain that you are being scammed, it is not always easy to stop communicating. Long-term communication may have become routine and habitual.
In addition, it can be difficult to give up on the dream of a romance that has developed. However, it is essential to break off contact with a romance scam in order to put an end to the situation.
Romance scammers lure victims into deep conversations
It is no coincidence that intimate messaging is difficult to stop. Sending messages filled with excessive compliments is a tactic used by romance scammers. They use it to make their victims fall in love and become hooked on the conversation. This kind of psychological manipulation is emotional and digital abuse, not a safe online romance.
Surrounded by loving messages each day, it’s difficult to believe the sender means any harm. Ending contact with someone who seems nice and interesting may seem strange at first. ”Why would I stop messaging someone who is so nice to me and interested in me?”
Once the scammer’s ”love bombing” has worked and the perpetrator has gotten their victim interested in them, they start to build an even stronger relationship of trust. Once the relationship of trust is strong enough, the perpetrator starts asking for money, with the amounts increasing over time. The requests for money are made using lies that appeal to emotions and create a sense of urgency.
Those who have received help from online dating safety support services have reported that contact with the person they were messaging was not immediately severed when the situation was revealed to be a scam. They may have continued to communicate with the perpetrator because they thought that as long as the communication continued, the relationship might still turn out to be genuine. They also kept in touch in the hope that they might still get back the money they had lost to them.
Why is it so difficult to stop messaging?
Humans have a basic psychological need for connection and love. For this reason alone, it is difficult to ignore a new acquaintance who confesses their infatuation and love. Who wouldn’t be affected by daily declarations of love and beautiful messages?
People who have sought our project’s support have found frequent communication and a large number of messages to be both addictive and confusing. Those who have experienced romance scams say that they felt as if they were under a spell. One customer said that their mind was divided in two because of the situation; one half believed in the relationship and the other half knew that it was a scam, but these two halves never met each other.
When we are infatuated and in love, we tend to overlook your new partner’s less attractive qualities. The story concocted by scammers don’t quite hold together and has gaps the size of an oil rig. An infatuated mind excuses inconsistencies so they don’t interfere with a growing online romance. It is said that the relationship became a bubble, sustained by the perpetrator’s lies, which nothing could burst.
Romance scammers seek to blur their victims’ perception of the situation with their convoluted stories. Some people have said that they began to doubt their own memory in the face of the perpetrator’s confusing and complex lies. Even if doubts arise about the situation’s true nature, the question may still linger in the mind: what if it’s real?
From identifying a scam to cutting off contact
Despite the difficulty, it is possible to end a suspicious long-distance relationship. First, it is a good idea to make sure that it is a scam. If you suspect that your online romance is a scam based on the following signs, you should break off contact immediately:
- Who made the first contact: Almost without exception, scammers send the first message.
- Switching from one app to another: Soon after establishing contact, scammers try to move the conversation to private messaging platforms (e.g., Telegram, WhatsApp, Signal) to make it more difficult to trace.
- Close contact: Cyber criminals use intensive messaging to build trust and hook you into the conversation.
- Strong emotions: Perpetrators pretend to be infatuated – often from the very first message.
- Money and valuables: This is the reason why scammers approach people online in the first place. A person’s profile may be convincing in every way and their story believable, but when they ask for something, alarm bells should start ringing. In addition to money, scammers may ask for gift cards, phones, or cryptocurrency, for example.
Perpetrators rely on the fact that the victim is so confused by the situation that it is not easy for them to leave. Some of our respondents have said that they did not end the conversation after the scam was revealed. They wanted to have the last word with the perpetrator to make themselves feel better. However, directing one’s anger at the perpetrator is risky; as long as the connection is open, the perpetrator can regain the upper hand and continue the scam.
Successful disengagement requires silence
To end the scam, it is best not to respond to the perpetrator’s messages. The criminals want to prolong the scam and keep in touch with victims from whom they can still expect money. Therefore, they may initially torment them by bombarding them with messages. Successfully ending the conversation may require several months of radio silence.
Not responding to messages can sometimes also help to recover from what has happened; radio silence can give the victim a sense of power and reinforce their own boundaries. Blocking the scammer’s social media profile and phone number helps.
Following this, phishing messages from other suspicious accounts may continue for some time and should be ignored. Changing phone numbers and email addresses is also advisable.
Cutting off contact with a fraudster can leave a void that is difficult to fill. In order to successfully cut off communication, it is worth considering what kinds of things could be done in everyday life to replace messaging. It is also important to consider meaningful alternatives to protect against scams in the future. It is not necessary to completely change one’s life, as even small actions can have a significant impact.
Interacting with suspicious individuals online exposes personal and close contacts to risk, as perpetrators often review social media connections to identify new victims. Continuing the conversation in hopes of revenge or recovering money only trains perpetrators to act more convincingly in the future.

What to do if you’re a victim of a romance scam
If you suspect you have been the victim of a romance scam, follow the instructions below.
Stop communicating with the scammer
When you realize that your messaging partner is likely attempting a romance scam, immediately stop responding to their messages. The longer the messaging continues, the more power the perpetrator has over you. Frequent messaging is a way to build and strengthen trust, which is why it can be challenging to stop communicating.
By continuing, you are putting yourself at risk, as the requests for money will not stop. You are also putting your loved ones at risk, as the scammer will obtain information about them through your messages. The perpetrator can use your social media profiles to contact your friends and scam them as well. In addition, continuing to communicate with the perpetrator teaches them to become a more skilled. By communicating with you, they learn, the language and culture of the country and can develop their scamming skills.
Communicating with your online acquaintance may have become a daily routine for you or something that brings joy to your everyday life in other ways. Therefore, when giving it up, it is worth considering how to fill the time freed up and where you could find similar sources of joy. You can consider whether it is easiest for you to ignore incoming messages and calls, or whether you want to block unwanted contacts. When you block your messaging partner, you may receive other new contacts that are also worth blocking. Another option is to completely change your phone number and email address.
The most important thing is to stop messaging with the perpetrator.
Save the information you receive from the scammer as evidence
Save all data you have received from the scammer. This includes account details, emails, and phone numbers they have used. Remember also the contact information of other parties associated with the scammer, such as their ”lawyers” and ”friends”). Save the information from the perpetrator’s various social media profiles, such as profile pictures, profile names, and web addresses. Also save any screenshots and web addresses from different websites that they have directed you to (e.g., different mailing service or investment service pages).
The information you save is part of the evidence of the fraud that has taken place. You can save your conversations by taking screenshots of all conversations, for example. Once you have saved the information about the scammer, block them. This will prevent them from contacting you again, but you already have the necessary information to take the criminal case forward.
The WhatsApp instant messaging app allows you to save conversations as separate files. Follow the instructions below to save a WhatsApp conversation:
- Open the WhatsApp application on your phone
- Open the chat.
- Tap More options > More > Export chat.
- Tap Without media or Include media.
- Choose your desire method (ex. Message, Mail, Add to Notes) to export chat history.
Note:
If you choose Include media, the most recent media sent will be added as attachments to be sent from your sharesheet.
Your chat history can’t be re-imported because it’s a text file and not a backup file. You can send the file to your email address, for example, or save it to a folder on your phone
It’s possible for you to also send this file to the investigating police.
Contact your bank
Your bank may be able to get the transferred money back through a chargeback (if the transfer was made with a credit, debit, or prepaid card). Even if you are unable to get your money back, your bank may be able to block future fraudulent transfers to the same account. Tell your bank about all the money transfers and payments you have made.
You can obtain information about all the money transfers you have made to the fraudster through your bank (for example, using your online banking credentials). You will need this information for the police report, among other things. When contacting your bank, also check whether the scammer may have access to your payment details (e.g., credit card details). If this is a possibility, it is a good idea to close the cards in question.
Report the crime to the police
You can report a crime to your local police either by filling in an online form or by visiting a police station.
When reporting a romance scam, you should include the following information in your report:
Information you have recorded about the perpetrator (including social media profile information, email addresses, account information, phone number).
All money transfer details, such as the amounts transferred, the dates of the transfers, and the account numbers to which the money was transferred. Include receipts for the money transfers and information on whether the perpetrator has access to your account details or personal information.
Provide a timeline of events, i.e., when the communication began and by what means, when the money transfers began, and what means and channels were used for communication. Also provide any identifying features you know about the perpetrator. This can such be their accent, information about their relatives, or information about their place of work and residence.
Also report if you have received money from the scammer.
”If I can’t get my money back and the scammers can’t be held accountable, is there any point in reporting the crime?”
It is often thought that reporting a romance scam is pointless. Romance scams are a global phenomenon linked to international crime and it is difficult to hold cyber criminals accountable. However, reporting the crime is extremely important for several reasons:
- Reporting the crime is often the first step in recovering from a romance scam. By reporting the incident to the police, the victim finally accepts that they have been an actual victim of a crime.
- Sometimes, an individual romance scam may be part of a larger group of perpetrators. In this case your report will provide the information needed to bring the perpetrators to justice. Crime reports also provide information on the state of crime and serve as a basis for statistical data. Without a crime report, you will have no chance of recovering the money you have lost.
- If you have incurred debt as a result of fraud and need debt restructuring, a crime report is one of the mandatory attachments to the debt restructuring application. With a crime report, you prove that you are a victim of crime and have incurred debt as a result.
- In order to tackle romance scams and other online fraud at a societal level, information about the crimes that have been committed and how they were carried out is needed. Reporting to the authorities is also important because the police allocate resources to their activities based on crime reports.
Consider applying for a voluntary credit ban
If your personal information is known to a fraudster, consider applying for a voluntary credit ban. This personal information might be passport details, social security number, account number. With your personal information, the perpetrator can make online purchases or apply for loans and quick loans in your name.
A voluntary credit ban is an entry made in credit registers which, once it comes into effect, prevents you from applying for consumer credit without special arrangements. This credit ban must be applied for in person and can only be applied for on your own behalf.
Practices regarding positive credit bans vary by country; check the situation in your country of residence.
General safety tips for avoiding romance scams
Searching for a relationship online is nowadays common, and many relationships nowadays start online. Once you know how to recognize a romance scam, searching for a partner online is much safer.
As long as you haven’t met the other person face to face, there is good reason to be cautious. When you meet someone new and interesting online, remember to pay attention to our safety tips.
Do not send money
Do not send money to someone you have not met in person and be wary of requests for money. A romance scammer may communicate with you for a long time before asking for money under the guise of an emergency, such as an accident or crisis. The amounts requested can range from small sums to large amounts of money.
Cyber criminals prefer payment methods such as cryptocurrencies, international money transfer services (e.g., PayPal), or gift cards. A sudden request for money can be confusing, and fraudsters rely on the fact that it can be difficult to refuse. It is important to remain vigilant and recognize a scam.
Do not accept packages or shipments
Do not accept letters, packages, valuables, or money transfers from anyone you have not met in person. Be careful with shipments and packages.
Sometimes romance fraudsters try to scam you out of money through so-called parcel scams. Your new acquaintance may tell you that they have sent you a parcel containing either a gift for you or their valuable property or documents that they want to send to you for safekeeping. In reality, the package does not exist, or its contents are illegal (such as drugs or forged documents). Receiving such a package can lead to serious criminal consequences, so accepting packages from strangers is very risky.
After the package has been sent, you may receive a text message or email with the package details, but unexpectedly, the link in the message takes you to a genuine-looking customs or postal service website (such as UPS or DHL), where you are required to pay package delivery fees or customs duties. This is a fake website, and any payments you make through it will go to criminals. Sometimes the perpetrator may directly ask for money for customs clearance or shipping costs, which are just excuses to get money.
Don’t give away your information
Do not disclose your identity, bank account details, or information about your private life. Be careful about what information you share and reveal about yourself.
Romance scammers also commit identity theft and, if necessary, blackmail to obtain your property. Your chat partner may ask you for photos or personal information related to your passport, ID card, account number, or home address. They may claim that they need this information to apply for a visa to come and meet you.
It is very important that you protect your privacy and refuse to provide this information. With your personal, account, or address information, they can steal your identity and impersonate you to defraud other people. Your information also allows them to take out loans, make online purchases, and start a business in your name. In all of these situations, your information falling into the wrong hands will cause financial and other problems.
In the midst of romantic messaging, you may also be asked for intimate photos. Never send photos (scantily clad or naked) to anyone you have not met in person. These photos can be used to blackmail you at a later stage. In addition to extortion, intimate photos may end up being shared publicly, for example on erotic dating sites, and it may then be practically impossible to remove the photos from circulation. Therefore, only share photos of yourself that you would be comfortable showing to anyone.
Do not accept investment advice
Only invest on the advice of your bank; do not invest money impulsively. Be wary of promises of quick riches.
In recent years, investment scams have become part of romance scams. This phenomenon is known internationally as romance baiting, which refers to online investment scams that originate from romantic contact. Your chat partner may tell you how they themselves have become rich through their investments. They might brag about their numerous business trips, flying in private jets, staying in luxury hotels, and wearing designer clothes.
At some point, they will tell you that they can also help you invest and succeed. In reality, this is an attempt to get you to commit to an investment scam.
It is typical for investment scams that your chat partner knows just the right website through which to make investments. They will give you a link to a genuine-looking investment site. Through this site, you can invest either euros or cryptocurrency, or alternatively, you can buy stocks, cryptocurrencies, precious metals, or bonds.
In reality, the site is designed for fraud and will only be up for a short time, from a few weeks or days to just a few hours, depending on what is necessary for the scam. If you are interested in investing, remember that there are no shortcuts to success. The best advice and guidance on how to start investing can be obtained from your bank’s investment advisors.
Information in English about the phenomenon of romance baiting can be found on the website of FINRA, the Financial Industry Regulatory Authority.
Be open about the messaging with your loved ones
Feel free to tell your loved ones about your romantic conversation partner. Your loved ones are always on your side and want what’s best for you.
When we go on a date or meet someone new who interests us, we may fall in love quickly. As a result of falling in love, hormones take over our bodies, and we may also become blind to warning signs about our new partner.
The old saying “love is blind” is no longer something to live by. As part of their manipulation, romance scammers try to isolate their victims from their loved ones. Isolation ensures that the victim’s loved ones are unaware of the situation and cannot intervene.
Romance scammers rely on you not telling anyone about your relationship. You can prevent isolation by being open with your loved ones. Tell them honestly about the messages you have started exchanging with someone new. If your loved ones are prejudiced and cautious about your romantic conversation partner, remember that they mean well and are concerned about your safety. If your chat partner does not want you to tell others about them, you should be careful when messaging. Honest love will not be hurt by your loved ones knowing about it. There is no reason to keep it a secret.
Check out the Safety Guide Bingo
Sometimes it’s better to think things through at a leisurely pace. If the previous instructions seem difficult to approach, you can check out our Safety Guide Bingo, which lists various warning signs related to online dating.
Read each point on the bingo card carefully. For example, you can mark the boxes that apply to you. The aim of this bingo is to hit nothing at all! Even one match means that you need to be very careful and cautious. In addition to the Safety Guide Bingo, it is a good idea to continue reading the other instructions on this page. You can download the bingo card from the button below.